Many people talk about the magical parts about becoming a mother. But so often we forget about, or avoid talking about the difficult, maybe embarrassing parts about being a mom for fear that we are abnormal or that we’re a failure.
One of those difficult parts is the challenges faced with breastfeeding. A significant part of being a mother with a newborn.
If you’re a new mom or expecting you’re probably no stranger to the studies that have been published on the incredible benefits of breastfeeding your children. Just to list a few, there is a greater resistance to developing things such as systemic autoimmune diseases, allergies, and neurodevelopmental disorders (Weng & Walker, 2013). Other findings from a recent study suggest that breast milk provides babies with diverse gut microbiome that helps protect them from harmful diseases (Stewart et al., 2016). These are just a few of the incredible things breast milk can provide.
But breastfeeding isn’t easy - with so many moms experiencing difficulties with latching, nipple confusion (after the baby is introduced to a bottle), nipple pain and discomfort, anxiety about whether or not they are producing enough milk, and so on. These are such common issues experienced among moms...but what solutions have really been offered?
That’s what we are trying to do with The Natural Nipple. Our goal is to pioneer the first study that explores women’s natural flow rate at different stages post-birth and differences in nipple shape and structure to develop a better breast to bottle solution.
We want to design a bottle and nipple that doesn’t disrupt your breastfeeding by providing you with a bottle and bottle nipple that mimics your natural shape and flow rate so you’re able to more easily go between breast and bottle.
What you’re doing is important, but life and other things can make it difficult. So for any mom who is trying to breastfeed but needs to get back to work, any mom who is experiencing extreme pain and needs to take a break from direct feeding, or struggling with breastfeeding in any other way we want to offer a solution.
We would greatly appreciate your input as well because we can’t do this without your help!
If you can, please fill out the survey below or donate a small amount to help us get this project off to a running start!
Stewart, C. J., Embleton, N. D., Marrs, E. C. L., Smith, D. P., Nelson, A., Abdulkadir, B., . . . Cummings, S. P. (2016). Temporal bacterial and metabolic development of the preterm gut reveals specific signatures in health and disease. Microbiome(1). doi:10.1186/s40168-016-0216-8
Weng, M., & Walker, W. A. (2013). The role of gut microbiota in programming the immune phenotype. Journal of Developmental Origins of Health & Disease, 4(3), 203.
I became a nurse so I could work in labor and delivery. It was “my thing”. I was always so amazed that, no matter how many births I had seen, not one was exactly the same. No matter how many births I had seen, the moment a new mom or especially a new dad would tear up, I would immediately start bawling with them.
I also began noticing which couples came in prepared, informed, and ready for delivery, and which ones …well… didn’t. Did the couples who came in prepared always get the perfect delivery they had planned? No. BUT, they did play an active role in their care. They were able to make informed choices so that they could make the best decisions for their care and their baby. Yes, I did my absolute best to educate and involve the couples who did not take any classes or were more passive about their care, but the amount of information I could give during a 12 hour shift or that they could retain while in active labor was not always enough.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I totally get why people don’t take “birthing” classes. I didn’t take one either. When my OB mentioned a “childbirth classe” I automatically thought of that whole scene from the movie, Baby Mama (click the link if you have no idea what I’m talking about) and was like, UMM “no, thanks I’m good”.
After all, I was a labor and delivery nurse, took many preparation classes, and my husband would be finishing his OB rotation in medical school... sooo, I figured we were solid, right? EEEERRRRRRR. WROOOOONG.
I always told my patients they would know when they were in true labor... yet, there I was second guessing every Braxton Hicks. Once labor really did come, and I needed that support to breathe, my husband couldn’t help me, he hated his OB rotation and checking cervixes was NOT his thing (and I definitely couldn’t reach mine anymore 🙄). Once I finally delivered and went home, I found myself getting annoyed that my husband (who had never been around babies before) wasn’t doing everything I had imagined him doing to help. It was something neither of us were prepared for.
Now, two babies, and an entire pediatric residency (for my husband) later, we still ask for help, we ask questions, and we have learned so much along the way. We recently sat down together and came up with....
1. Answer all the questions about your third trimester.
There are so many things that happen during in your last trimester and so many things to remember such as hormone changes, weight gain, fetal kick counts, exercise, braxton hicks, etc. Pregnancy brain is REAL and even IF you discussed these things with your OB it is so easy to forget!
2. Feel empowered and eliminate fears.
Childbirth can sound scary. There is pain, there is about to be a baby, and wrapping your mind around the entire process if you’ve only heard horror stories form “friends” or family can make anyone fearful. A childbirth preparation class will give you the opportunity to get answers to all your questions, as serious or as silly as they can be... and not only for yourself, but for your partner as well.
You are not the first person to go through this, and I can promise you won’t be the last. You absolutely can do this. Learning what to expect during labor and delivery and empowering your partner to be the best support they could be is the first step.
It’s also good to know that with delivering in a hospital - a medical model delivery, there are certain standard procedures that come along with it. BUT with that said, if you are a low risk, healthy woman, some of these standard procedures are not completely necessary and learning about them can really help you progress in your labor.
3. Learn ways to effectively deal with labor contractions until you can get relief.
There’s no hiding that labor is painful. But pain doesn’t always mean that you suffer along with it. It’s important to realize that there is a difference between pain and suffering. Our bodies were made for this. Yes, it’s painful- but this is pain with a purpose. There are many things you can do to keep you from suffering during those contraction until you either get your epidural or until you are able to delivery your baby. There is never a reason to suffer during what should be the most beautiful day of your life.
4. Learn how to actively participate in your care through learning informed decision making.
Things don’t always go according to “Birth Plan”, and that’s okay. Birth plans should reflect what you envision for a perfect birth but they should be flexible as well. Learn what questions to ask so that you can be sure you are making the best choices for you and your baby.
5. Create a support team who will truly support, encourage, coach you, and hold your hand during labor and delivery.
During labor mammals will naturally hide to a dark quiet environment to allow their bodies to relax as much as possible and, in turn, will allow proper hormone secretion to advance in labor. It is so important that the people you choose to have with you, during this time, support you, encourage you, and have all the information they need to properly help you.
6. Learn how to decrease your chance of having a cesarean section.
While, there are things, such as your anatomy, the position of the baby or your placenta, and other things that you cannot control, if you have a low risk and healthy pregnancy, there are definitely things you can do such as changing positions, walking, squatting, and putting direct pressure on your cervix during the first stage of labor that are proved to shorten the 2nd stage.
7. Prepare for postpartum.
There are so many changes that happen to your body over the course of 40 weeks, but there are a lot of changes that happen to your body after delivery that you need to prepare for and understand as well- such as bleeding, hormone changes, healing if you had a perineal repair, if you had a cesarean delivery, if you get hemorrhoids, nutrition if you’re breastfeeding, and overall resources available to you.
8. Understand the benefits of breastfeeding.
Breastmilk provides complete nutrition to your baby from the moment of birth. There were times when a premature baby was born and we would have the mother pump to get whatever colostrum we possibly could to take to the NICU for her baby. It is filled with antibodies, fats, nutrients, and the exact amount of calories your baby needs!
You should absolutely take a breastfeeding class if available to you, but a good childbirth preparation class will teach you the benefits of nursing, the basics, and be able to provide you with resources should you get a little stuck. Involving your partner in breastfeeding can seem a little tricky, but it's so important to be on the same page, to have that encouragement, and to have that support.
9. Learn the basics of newborn care.
There are many newborn assessments and procedures that happen after the baby is born. Get information on vaccines, bathing your baby, car seats, pediatricians, and even ways to prevent SIDS for your baby. It can also help to learn how to deal with the unwarranted advice from family and friends!
10. Learn way to decrease your risk of postpartum depression and know how to get help before it gets worse.
The drop in your hormones after delivery are so drastic that it is no wonder many women feel the things they do. "Baby blues" are real, but so is postpartum depression. Learning the warning signs, learning ways to prevent exhaustion, how to ask for help with your newborn, and feeling prepared are only some of the ways you could prepare yourself.
I hope these reasons empower you to take that first step in looking for a class or for asking the questions you need answered to help you prepare for your new journey.
Big hugs and even bigger belly rubs, from one mama to another.
Guest Blogger: Jessica Hazboun RN BSN PHN
Jessica is a registered nurse with a background in Labor and Delivery. She married her high school sweetheart (who is now a pediatrician), and is now a momma to two toddlers and two pups. Her passion is and always will be pregnancy and, most of all, babies! She created Nearly Nested with the hope of empowering new moms and dads to take on this new role and a new life with utmost confidence by providing classes, answers, and resources to eliminate any fears, worries, or anxieties that accompany parenthood. I can promise you, while it is not easy, parenthood will be the most beautiful and silliest journey of your lives.